hello readers!

what an awesome service we had yesterday in church before Chinese New Year :)

from the new year goodie bag with oranges, ang pows and BA KWA!
to the praise and worship
to the sermon
and the ministry
it was simply awesome isn't it?

love's still in the air although valentine's day is over. cos His love never fades!

just like what we learnt yesterday of the keys to relationships, let's us not just know it, but let's apply it with understanding. lets translate this knowledge to understanding and to wisdom! :D

1. SELFISHNESS can destroy a relationship.
when it all revolves around I, ME, and MYSELF.
we all know that it takes a least two hands to clap in a relationship. if one party always only care about the 3 golden ' I, Me Myself ' , it'll destroy the relationship somehow! it's human nature to be selfish. we're not perfect being yeah? but we can avoid this by being ...
SELFLESS. think more about others than urselves.

so. SELFISHNESS ---> SELFLESSNESS

:D

2. Pride can destroy a relationship
pride can lead to someone being all critical because he/she only thinks that he/she is the greatest of all. is the best of all.
let us esteem others better than ourselves!
yes! we all feel good when we're being praise. but let these praise come from others when we do good! and when other do good.. praise them!
humility is not denial of self strength but it is an attitude we have that even though we may be stronger than others in some areas, yet we choose to not be belittle others and think of how we can improve ourselves further. (thats my definition so far. haha!)

so PRIDE ---> HUMILITY

3. Insecurity can destroy a relationship.
maybe bad experiences plays a part?
when u hear certain blunt remarks and receive certain blunt actions? or when u do not receive a certain affirmation of words? u feel like u're not 'feeling' the love u always have been. u start doubt of the now and the future. i think we can also relate this to our relationship with God. many times we may be down and always ask God where He is and if He really understands what we're going through in our lives, we are already feeling insecure of our relationship with Christ. the fact is this: He knows what we're going through and will give us the grace and strength to go through whatever we're experiencing. Jesus was rejected to the point when he died on the cross. He loves us so much He died for us on the cross. the matter of fact- He always love us with the unconditional love of God!
by holding onto this fact we do not need to fear and have insecurity within us. Perfect love cast of fear..

INSECURITY ---> LOVE

:D

4. Resentment can destroy a relationship
we go through so much to only know we resent a person more and more. why?!
past issues pile up again and again, we find it more difficult to forgive and let go anymore. we resent even more and the more bitter the relationship gets. if we carry on this resentment in our hearts and move on to another relationship, the same resentment will still be present and it will ultimately cause harm to the new relationship. this cycle never ends until we choose to forgive and forget. there will definintely be a war in our emotional being in the process of choosing to forgive. but won't it be more painful if we choose to hold on to this resentment that cuts our spirit? so friends.. let us choose to be wise. let us choose to make things happen instead of holding back.

His mercy taught us how to forgive.

RESENTMENT ---> FORGIVENESS


i hope this help some of us here we weren't unable to attend the service on thurs and will also help the passer-bys of this blog.
have a blessed Chinese New Year!

cheers!
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